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Several years ago, I read Fuller s Don t Let s Go to the Dogs Tonight, a memoir of her young life as a white girl in Southern NOT South Africa, and although I don t remember the specifics, I do remember that I closed the book with a sense of history and humor, so I was pleased to see that she d published a new book This one, Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness, does not disappoint This time around, the author sets her sights on the experiences of her parents, especially her mother, Several years ago, I read Fuller s Don t Let s Go to the Dogs Tonight, a memoir of her young life as a white girl in Southern NOT South Africa, and although I don t remember the specifics, I do remember that I closed the book with a sense of history and humor, so I was pleased to see that she d published a new book This one, Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness, does not disappoint This time around, the author sets her sights on the experiences of her parents, especially her mother, Nicola The book starts out feeling somewhat glib and suspicious, but as Fuller settles into the narrative, the rich stories of her parents lives unfold her mother s childhood in colonial Kenya, her father s rootlessness, their falling in love and decision to stay in Africa, despite the wars for African independence that rolled across the continent in the sixties and seventies As Fuller recounts the experiences of her family in Rhodesia, Zimbabwe, and Zambia, two feelings settled over me this was really a love story Tubs and Tim are obviously deeply in love, even after all these years and the author deeply loves and admires her parents, no matter what , and that none of the family will ever really recover from her parents decision to stay in Africa no matter what the consequences Fuller creates an achingly beautiful and heartbreaking piece of work here, which manages to evoke the beauty and horror of the Dark Continent as well as the optimism and determination of her parents personalities She deftly weaves personal experience with the historical realities of Kenya, Rhodesia Zimbabwe, and Zambia, which makes her effort especially remarkable In the end, I closed the book feeling thankful, sad, and deeply in need of a cocktail Cheers to Alexandra Fuller and her amazing love song to her family Alexandra Fuller wrote of her African childhood in Don t Lets Go to the Dogs Tonight known afterward to her family as the Awful Book and her fey mother, Nicola Fuller of Central Africa, emerged as the most memorable character In Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness, Fuller returns to that harshest of continents to chart her mother s life and memories as a one million percent Highland Scottish woman who grew up in the perfect equatorial light of colonial Kenya, who led a hardscrabble Alexandra Fuller wrote of her African childhood in Don t Lets Go to the Dogs Tonight known afterward to her family as the Awful Book and her fey mother, Nicola Fuller of Central Africa, emerged as the most memorable character In Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness, Fuller returns to that harshest of continents to chart her mother s life and memories as a one million percent Highland Scottish woman who grew up in the perfect equatorial light of colonial Kenya, who led a hardscrabble life in war torn Rhodesia, who lost children, land, and sanity before courageously achieving an African kind of peace on a farm in Zambia under her Tree of Forgetfulness A notch below the Awful Book, Fuller s writing is beautiful, engaging, and compassionate in capturing her mother s voice and a life Worthy of Fabulous Literature Highly recommended This book is a memoir of all the good and bad and how to survive in the African wilderness I find myself mesmerized, enchanted, sad, elated and pondering Most of all, it was a great read Sometimes I hollered with laughter.I love these quotes from the book No one starts a war warning that those involved will lose their innocence that children will definitely die and be forever lost as a result of the conflict that the war will not end for generations and generations, even after cease fire This book is a memoir of all the good and bad and how to survive in the African wilderness I find myself mesmerized, enchanted, sad, elated and pondering Most of all, it was a great read Sometimes I hollered with laughter.I love these quotes from the book No one starts a war warning that those involved will lose their innocence that children will definitely die and be forever lost as a result of the conflict that the war will not end for generations and generations, even after cease fire have been declared and peace of treaties have been signed Whether out of desperation, ignorance or hostility, humans have an unerring capacity to ignore one another s sacred traditions and to defile one another s hallowed grounds Surely until all of us own and honor one another s dead, until we have admitted to our murders and forgiven one another and ourselves for what we have done, there can be no truce, no dignity and no peace although my father is profoundly English, by the time I am old enough to know anything about him, he is already fighting in an African war and his Englishness has been subdued bythan a decade on this uncompromising continent In this way, the English part of our identity registers as a void, something lacking that manifests in inherited, stereotypical characteristics an allergy to sentimentality, a casual ease with profanity, a horror of bad manners, a deep mistrust of humorlessness It is my need to add layers and context to the outline of this sketchy Englishness Those wars are still raging.The most profound message I take from this book, apart from aspiring to be as resourceful and enduring as the author s mom, is thisBut you can t have all this life on one end without a corresponding amount of decay on the other in the morning my parent s maid, Hilda Tembo Big H to the family , will sweep up half a bucket of insects carcasses and two gecko bodies from under the Tree of Forgetfulness Months from now three of the Jack Russels will have been killed by a cobra in Dad s office, and one will have been eaten by a crocodile in Mum s fish ponds And Dad will walk out of the bedroom one morning to see a python coiled in cartoonish perfection around Wallace the late cat You learn not to mourn every little thing out there, Mom says She shakes her head No, you can t, or you d never, ever stop grieving What my mother won t say lost in all her talk of chemicals and pills is that she knows not only the route grief takes through the blood but also the route it takes through the heart s cracks What she won t tell me is that recovering from the madness of grief wasn t just a matter of prescriptions, but of willpower I sometimes used to envy the people you see running up and down the Kafue Road in hessian sacks, she said once And it is true that Mum seriously considered that level of deep, irretrievable insanity an option But instead, she took a different route and regained herself and that had very little to do with forgiveness she forgave the world and her mind returned She gave herself amnesty and her soul had a home again The forgiveness took years and it took this farm and it took the Tree of Forgetfulness It took all of that, but above all it took the one grief could never steal from my mother her courage If you have read African authors such as Kuki Gallmann, writing a detailed account of their life in Africa, you will enjoy Alexandra Fuller s books as well, but the latter has just added a lot of oomph and humor to the situations I really loved this book Years ago I read Don t Let s Go to the Dogs Tonight by Alexandra Fuller I loved it I have been very foolish in not picking up this book sooner You do not need to read both, but I would highly recommend it This is awful book number two , as the author s Mom would call it The two books are about the author s family, their time in Central Africa , that is to say Kenya, Zimbabwe, Zambia and Malawi The reason why I really love these books, and I love both of them, is that the writer talks abo Years ago I read Don t Let s Go to the Dogs Tonight by Alexandra Fuller I loved it I have been very foolish in not picking up this book sooner You do not need to read both, but I would highly recommend it This is awful book number two , as the author s Mom would call it The two books are about the author s family, their time in Central Africa , that is to say Kenya, Zimbabwe, Zambia and Malawi The reason why I really love these books, and I love both of them, is that the writer talks about hardships you cannot imagine, and she does it with humor In addition you learn about life in the African countries named You learn through the experiences of this family If you have read the first book, you simply must read this, the second awful book , because it clearly shows why the mother is who she is in all the wonderful and hopeless and horrible details I listened to the audiobook I want you to taste the humor and style of writing Please go to the link here and click on the sample button below the audiobook at the Audible site want you to test and see if you enjoy her particular style That is why I have included the link So I loved the author s writing style I loved the humor What else did I love Why was it that I could not stop listening Beside that I though the history of colonial overthrow was expertly woven into the story, and that isn t so strange since the family lived through these events, it was the understanding of who her mother was that I loved most Maybe this sounds a little strange, but I like reading books to understand people I like reading books to understand life, and life throws whoppers at all of us Doesn t it Life is throwing whoppers at this family from day one to the very, very end And finally, I feel that the author has a wonderful way of relating to her annoying, ever so self assured mother I came to understand that mother and I came to admire the author s ability to accept her mother for who she is You have to read the books, both books in fact, to understand I not only learned historical facts, but I also learned on a personal level how one should could relate to a strong, some times terribly annoying Mom Here is a link to my review of the earlier book I forgot to tell you if you love animal stories, then this is another reason to read the book It is filled with stories about the family s pets In this sequel to Don t Let s Go to the Dogs Tonight, Alexandra Fuller returns to Africa and the story of her unforgettable family In Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness, Alexandra Fuller braids a multilayered narrative around the perfectly lit, Happy Valley era Africa of her mother s childhood the boiled cabbage grimness of her father s English childhood and the darker, civil war torn Africa of her own childhood At its heart, this is the story of Fuller s mother, Nicola Born on the Scottish Isle of Skye and raised in Kenya, Nicola holds dear the kinds of values most likely to get you hurt or killed in Africa loyalty to blood, passion for land, and a holy belief in the restorative power of all animals Fuller interviewed her mother at length and has captured her inimitable voice with remarkable precision Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness is as funny, terrifying, exotic, and unselfconscious as Nicola herself We see Nicola and Tim Fuller in their lavender colored honeymoon period, when East Africa lies before them with all the promise of its liquid equatorial light, even as the British Empire in which they both believe wanes But in short order, an accumulation of mishaps and tragedies bump up against history until the couple finds themselves in a world they hardly recognize We follow the Fullers as they hopscotch the continent, running from war and unspeakable heartbreak, from Kenya to Rhodesia to Zambia, even returning to England briefly But just when it seems that Nicola has been broken entirely by Africa, it is the African earth itself that revives her A story of survival and madness, love and war, loyalty and forgiveness, Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness is an intimate exploration of the author s family In the end, we find Nicola and Tim at a coffee table under their Tree of Forgetfulness on the banana and fish farm where they plan to spend their final days In local custom, the Tree of Forgetfulness is where villagers meet to resolve disputes and it is here that the Fullers at last find an African kind of peace Following the ghosts and dreams of memory, Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness is Alexandra Fuller at her very best Ever sat down with a friend for cocktails only to have them retell their same old stories without showing the slightest bit of interest in you That was this book This is the fourth book I ve read from this author, which means that I ve read all her books Obviously, I ve enjoyed them, or I would not have bothered reading this one But the author rehashes many stories from her first book Don t Lets Go to the Dogs Tonight, only this time from her parents perspective and without the in depth d Ever sat down with a friend for cocktails only to have them retell their same old stories without showing the slightest bit of interest in you That was this book This is the fourth book I ve read from this author, which means that I ve read all her books Obviously, I ve enjoyed them, or I would not have bothered reading this one But the author rehashes many stories from her first book Don t Lets Go to the Dogs Tonight, only this time from her parents perspective and without the in depth descriptions or emotions The author seemed to want to tell her parents story, but I found that I don t care about her parents story This is the part where I felt the author didn t care about my needs She just wanted to write a book about her parents, and we the reader better like it There were new stories, but they weren t all that interesting When Alexandra Fuller tells her stories about her life, she is at her best Let s hope she hasn t run out Here Alexandra Fuller has essentially rewritten her superb and funny memoirDon t Let s Go to the Dogs Tonightto make her parents soundresponsible and less like drunken bartop dancing rowdies Cover story Mum her first best friend.who spent a lot of her childhood soused and or depressed Hope Mum spoke to her again after this one It s a credit to Fuller s skill as a writer that this sequel is nearly as engaging as the first book, but for entirely different reasons The child s ey Here Alexandra Fuller has essentially rewritten her superb and funny memoirDon t Let s Go to the Dogs Tonightto make her parents soundresponsible and less like drunken bartop dancing rowdies Cover story Mum her first best friend.who spent a lot of her childhood soused and or depressed Hope Mum spoke to her again after this one It s a credit to Fuller s skill as a writer that this sequel is nearly as engaging as the first book, but for entirely different reasons The child s eye perspective is missing this time, which makes Mum and Dad s resentment of Zimbabwe s majority ruleproblematic to the narrative this time around Because honestly, how could they not be racists And even when Fuller s writing in full apologetic mode, when her mother gives her material like my first real friend was a chimp named Stephen Foster, Fuller s going to take it and run with it The book is full of such ironic and fairly damning gems from her parents earlier years The inherent innocence of Fuller s young voice tacitly pardoned some of her parents actions in the Don t Let s Go As readers, we could hazard that Fuller was perhaps sometimes judging her parents too harshly, sometimes too leniently After all, it was her story, not theirs And Fuller made clear that their perspective was not her own This time around, as the adult Fuller lays out the timeline for one of the family s most profound tragedies, view spoiler the drowning of Fuller s toddler sister, hide spoiler you can practically hear her mother offstage dictating the details of this revisionist version The parents were absent that terrible day because their oldest child needed school shoes The neighbor left in charge was a long trusted family friend The careful exoneration of the parents ends up sounding understandably forced And sanitized And fascinating for the distance between the two accounts InDogsFuller eloquently shared her immediate and permanent guilt over the accident she was eight years old herself, and supposed to be in charge In her duty to produce apalatable version of the story, it feels as if she s shown us that muchabout her family This was a disappointment I d read her other books, and while none matched the wit and visceral life of Don t Let s Go to the Dogs Tonight, the one about the African Soldier was okay, but I couldn t even finish this one it was so boring and such a re hashing of her her first book Maybe I know Africa too well, but I felt an elitist tone to this one that I didn t pick up in her first book The African Soldier one did leave me perplexed as to how someone could be privileged enough to just be able This was a disappointment I d read her other books, and while none matched the wit and visceral life of Don t Let s Go to the Dogs Tonight, the one about the African Soldier was okay, but I couldn t even finish this one it was so boring and such a re hashing of her her first book Maybe I know Africa too well, but I felt an elitist tone to this one that I didn t pick up in her first book The African Soldier one did leave me perplexed as to how someone could be privileged enough to just be able to hang around this guy for so long and what she was doing there making out with another guy with her husband and kids in Wyoming, but I got some history from the Rhodesian side, which is cool Her mothers story the 3rd time round is just not that interesting Do others feel differently I love the title, but if I had a Tree of Forgetfulness, why then would I need a Cocktail Hour This book gives some insight into the wackiness of Bobo s parents, especially her mother, Nicola Fuller of Central Africa, whom we first encountered in Don t Let s Go to the Dogs Tonight.I think this passage from page 125 illustrates a bit of life for the often dissolute British colonials in Africa in the mid 20th century A horse vet named Charlie organized hunts bringing together large groups of co I love the title, but if I had a Tree of Forgetfulness, why then would I need a Cocktail Hour This book gives some insight into the wackiness of Bobo s parents, especially her mother, Nicola Fuller of Central Africa, whom we first encountered in Don t Let s Go to the Dogs Tonight.I think this passage from page 125 illustrates a bit of life for the often dissolute British colonials in Africa in the mid 20th century A horse vet named Charlie organized hunts bringing together large groups of colonials, which often ended in wife swappingAbout a thousand bad tempered dogs were draped everywhere, glaring at you as you ate, Dad says And there was a parrot You would ask for the gravy and the parrot would shout, And you can fuck off too Dinner usually ended with port in front of the fire The generator was switched off at about midnight, and the guests faltered to bed with candles And then the corridor creeping started, Dad says Mum and I kept our door locked Yes, I m afraid so, Mum says Those people had to leave their children in a pram at the bottom of the garden until it was time to send them to boarding school because they all looked like the neighbor Read the original post by clicking here Alexandra Fuller s latest book, The Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness, continues to roam around in my imaginationthan a month after I finished reading it She is a memoirist who transports the reader to a time and place you could never otherwise know and experience it with compassion and good humor.Even her title invites the reader to the place in the African village where people meet, talk, discuss, negotiate, laugh, drink, sing, forgi Read the original post by clicking here Alexandra Fuller s latest book, The Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness, continues to roam around in my imaginationthan a month after I finished reading it She is a memoirist who transports the reader to a time and place you could never otherwise know and experience it with compassion and good humor.Even her title invites the reader to the place in the African village where people meet, talk, discuss, negotiate, laugh, drink, sing, forgive and forget One central tree where the shade provides a gathering place The Tree of Forgetfulness is a symbolic spot where sitters anticipate the amnesia that lets them forget the past slavery, war, violence The central figure in this story, Nicola Fuller, is much like this tree herself And she holds court there during the cocktail hour.If I told you this book was about a mother who lost two children, drove around with an Uzi across her lap with an infant and toddler strapped in, suffered from alcoholism and depression, and lived the life of a white Rhodesian, I m guessing you wouldn t really be interested Not a character most of us are interested in getting to know better.But if you read Fuller s first memoir, Don t Let s Go to the Dogs Tonight An African Childhood 2003 Random House Trade Paperbacks , then you already know the larger than life stories of Alexandra s mother, Nicola, and her father and itinerant farmer, Tim, Fuller are page turners Alexandra Fuller returns to the subject of her childhood in Kenya and writes as the memoirist of parents who intend to spend their final days in the Zambezi Valley.Fuller recounts the African childhood of her mother, Nicola, and her father s British upbringing during the early part of the 20th century The relations between whites and Africans, between rich and poor, majority and minority are shown, not told Historical, cultural and political background information are woven into the story like a blind hem on a full skirt Fuller is a gifted journalist and applies this skill by permitting her readers to make their own interpretations and draw their own conclusions.Capturing the voice and irrepressible spirit of Nicola Fuller, Alexandra reveals her mother s love of animals, especially horses, her grit in struggling to scrape out a living, her negotiations to make a place in the world, and her reckless sense of adventure But also the suffering of a woman who lost a child to an illness that could not be treated in such a remote location A woman whose daughter drowned when she left her at home A woman whose husband would be gone four days at a time working farm land miles away A woman who drank A force to be reckoned with, and a lady.If you haven t read her first book, this one stands on its own And you ll enjoy the first one, then, evenYou might be interested to know that Fuller s agent suggested she write another book about her mother and father If you have read both, which do you think is better Between the two books, Alexandra Fuller wrote The Legend of Colton Bryant Penguin 2009 The true story of a boy in Wyoming who loves to ride mustangs and fancies the rodeo, returns home to take a job on an oil rig and is killed on the job Where the great high plains meet the Rocky Mountains, hydro fracking changes the landscape and its people Fuller lives in Wyoming and captures the characters and sense of place to draw a landscape portrait of contemporary life.Rare is the writer whose voice is so compelling that it doesn t matter what they write, you ll read it For me, Alexandra Fuller is one of those rare writers Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness


About the Author: Alexandra Fuller

Alexandra Fuller has written five books of non fiction Her debut book, Don t Let s Go to the Dogs Tonight An African Childhood Random House, 2001 , was a New York Times Notable Book for 2002, the 2002 Booksense best non fiction book, a finalist for the Guardian s First Book Award and the winner of the 2002 Winifred Holtby Memorial Prize Her 2004 Scribbling the Cat Travels with an African Soldier Penguin Press won the Ulysses Prize for Art of Reportage The Legend of Colton H Bryant was published in May, 2008 by Penguin Press and was a Toronto Globe and Mail, Best Non Fiction Book of 2008 Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness was published in August 2011 Penguin Press.Her latest book, Leaving Before the Rains Come, was published in January 2015 Penguin Press Fuller has also written extensively for magazines and newspapers including the New Yorker Magazine, National Geographic Magazine, Vogue and Granta Magazine Her reviews have appeared in the New York Times Book Review The Financial Times and the Toronto Globe and Mail Fuller was born in England in 1969 and moved to Africa with her family when she was two She married an American river guide in Zambia in 1993 They left Africa in 1994 and moved to Wyoming, where Fuller still resides She has three children.


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