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Regretting Motherhood Really good and important. Women who opt not to be mothers are frequently warned that they will regret their decision later in life, yet we rarely talk about the possibility that the opposite might also be true—that a woman who becomes a mother might regret it Sociologist Orna Donath dispels the silence around this profoundly taboo subject in a powerful work that draws from her years of research interviewing women who wish they had never become mothersDonath treats regret as a feminist issue: as regret marks the road not taken, we need to consider whether alternative paths for women may currently be blocked off Donath asks that we pay attention to what is forbidden by our contemporary rules governing motherhood, time, and emotion, including the cultural assumption that motherhood is a “natural” role for women—for the sake of all women, not just those who regret becoming mothers Donath finds that the women in her study became mothers for a wide variety of reasons: some did so to avoid divorce, exclusion from their family, or alienation from their friends; others did not think about it at all, but accepted it as the “next step” of what society considers to be a normal and natural life course Others experienced regret despite initially having an strong desire to become mothers Though they may love their children, these women each describe the agonizing guilt and suffering they have experienced as a result of becoming mothers, and consider the different ways they have each come to recognize and deal with these conflicts ❰PDF / Epub❯ ☀ Poltergeist (Greywalker, Author Kat Richardson – Ralphslaurensoutlet.co.uk yet we rarely talk about the possibility that the opposite might also be true—that a woman who becomes a mother might regret it Sociologist Orna Donath dispels the silence around this profoundly taboo subject in a powerful work that draws from her years of research interviewing women who wish they had never become mothersDonath treats regret as a feminist issue: as regret marks the road not taken ➣ [Epub] ➝ OBaby By Geoffrey Johnson ➭ – Ralphslaurensoutlet.co.uk we need to consider whether alternative paths for women may currently be blocked off Donath asks that we pay attention to what is forbidden by our contemporary rules governing motherhood ❰Download❯ ➽ Defiant (MacKinnons Rangers, Author Pamela Clare – Ralphslaurensoutlet.co.uk time ❥ [KINDLE] ❂ 21 Divisiones de Los Misterios Sanses By Ernesto Bravo Estrada ➢ – Ralphslaurensoutlet.co.uk and emotion ❴EPUB❵ ✺ Nightfall (Dark Age Dawning, Author Ellen Connor – Ralphslaurensoutlet.co.uk including the cultural assumption that motherhood is a “natural” role for women—for the sake of all women [KINDLE] ❅ The Good Daughter ❥ Karin Slaughter – Ralphslaurensoutlet.co.uk not just those who regret becoming mothers Donath finds that the women in her study became mothers for a wide variety of reasons: some did so to avoid divorce [Read] ➵ Crysis Author Peter Watts – Ralphslaurensoutlet.co.uk exclusion from their family ➿ [Download] ➽ Fractured (Will Trent, By Karin Slaughter ➵ – Ralphslaurensoutlet.co.uk or alienation from their friends; others did not think about it at all ❰Epub❯ ➜ Ghost Author Fred Burton – Ralphslaurensoutlet.co.uk but accepted it as the “next step” of what society considers to be a normal and natural life course Others experienced regret despite initially having an strong desire to become mothers Though they may love their children [Reading] ➷ Nerve By Dick Francis – Ralphslaurensoutlet.co.uk these women each describe the agonizing guilt and suffering they have experienced as a result of becoming mothers [Download] ➾ Cinco Dias de Vida By Julie Lawson Timmer – Ralphslaurensoutlet.co.uk and consider the different ways they have each come to recognize and deal with these conflicts This is an incredibly important book which gives voice to an experience that is still the ultimate taboo in society, women who regret becoming mothers It reminded me of The Feminine Mystique, which similarly used women's personal narratives to break down assumptions about what a fulfilling life should look like for a woman Donath includes dozens of interviews with anonymous women who regret becoming mothers, not to damn that choice, but to validate other choices As a childfree woman, I found this book incredibly affirming, though I'd recommend it for anyone with an interest in women's issues. An incredibly important and depressing book that shows how we're failing women as society And one definitely doesn't have to be a mother or regret motherhood, or even be a woman to read this book In fact, I believe everyone should read it With an open mind and heart. This is a subject for which I am grateful there is a book I feel that motherhood was foisted on many of us, and I, too, fell for the “you’ll feel differently when you have your own” spiel I never did feel differently I never felt a bond that most mothers speak of, but I have felt a huge responsibility to both my kids For those reasons I can definitely Identify with some of the subjects in this book I also have noticed it is a very taboo subject here is the US, and yet I feel we have to speak about it in order to do right by those in the next generation who also feel no compelling need to procreate I hear the messages that young people are told and it is shocking to me that still, in the 21st century, people are still forcing their own opinions on people who already know they don’t want kids Thank you for this wellthought out subject I think you covered all the bases.I only wish that those who should read the book would read the book (those who condemn women who bring up the subject), but I suppose that is too much to ask. I received this in a first reads giveaway in exchange for an honest review I am very grateful to Ms Donath for writing this book Speaking as a woman who doesn't want to have kids I am constantly hearing that I will regret it, it is nice to know there are significant numbers of women who actually regret having kids. I read an English translation of this and found it thorough, empathetic, and excellent If an analysis of the thoughts and feelings of women who regret becoming mothers is at all intriguing to you, I definitely recommend this. While the content was interesting and helpful to the broader childfree conversation, the structure of the book was distracting and choppy. I think this book should be one of those that you read before you make big decision like motherhood It’s good to hear both sides of the story even if you are on the fence or you think you decided I often find that where you can talk and hear about ‘how great motherhood is and children make up for hard times’ you never hear about ‘bad’ sides or those that regrew their decision Why? Why in this time and the day this is taboo topic I just don’t get it Everyone has right to their own decisions, speaking out might help someone to make their own decision. A fascinating (if uncomfortable) book, and one that stresses how constrained many women's choices still are, and how little sympathy they get for not matching social expectations about maternal feelings.


About the Author: Orna Donath

Orna Donath, born in 1976, is a sociologist at the Ben Gurion University of the Negev in Beersheba, where she carries out research on the social expectations particularly faced by women After her study Making a Choice, which was published in 2011 and examined Jewish women in Israel who decide against children, Regretting Motherhood is her first international book publication Beside her academic


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